It is rather worrying that many prospective couples seeking to live their wedding dreams spend many months preparing for their big day, wrapped up in all the excitements and anxieties, yet they overlook the importance of  pre-wedding counselling and many advantages it brings when the love cookies begins to crumble.

Considering the rising figures of marital separations and divorces especial amongst young marriages, it has become imperative for prospective couples to attend pre-marital counselling programs so that they can strengthen their chances of staying together in marriage.

There is an assumption that counselling is only for relationships experiencing problems and not for couples in love but the primary objective of pre-wedding counselling is to help couples identify looming problems and profound solution wherever possible so as to maintain a happy and healthy marriage.

Premarital counselling can save your marriage from constant disagreements which can lead to frustration and depression if you help is not sought before marriage.

ASK QUESTIONS

In the midst of the fancy wedding details and the distraction from families and friends, take time out to ask yourselves true questions which can be uncomfortable and sensitive but if left unanswered may ultimately crop up in later years.

Discuss issues such as finances, faiths, divorce, personal problems, goals and aspirations, children; family crisis which has affected marriages in your families and likely to affect yours if not properly managed.

Discussing and identifying certain issues which may strain your marriage if not tackled are reasons to attend pre-marital counselling.

It is important to equip yourselves with the necessary tools needed to strengthen your marriage commitments through pre-wedding counselling so that you can both enter the marriage with a clear definition and divinely filled purpose.

FIND ANSWERS

If you have difficulties talking through the issues of your lives, you may find it difficult to resolve your conflicts too.  Pre-wedding counselling would enable you to overcome and resolve your issues amicably when they come up.

Pre-wedding counselling allows you to talk openly about individual responsibilities as well as roles you jointly share.

Parents are the first role models and if bad habits are inherited from your parents, it can affect your marriage.  Family influences and dynamics are the traits many people exhibit in their marriages and identifying your habits and discussing ways to overcome them can be achieved through pre-marriage counselling

Pre-wedding counselling can help you communicate better, resolve your problems and spend less time disagreeing on issues and more time understanding each other.

WHO CAN COUNSEL?

Pre-wedding counselling can be performed by different types of people such as professionals like psychologists or marriage therapist, religious leaders and counsellors or experienced couples who have been married for several years and still enjoying a blissful union.

The professional marriage and family therapist will be required if the issues are more complex, they usually consult under private practices and charge for services rendered.

Couples with years of experience can also serve as mentors to young couples through sharing their own experiences, trials and tribulation.  These people have different ways and skills to help you identify and overcome your problems so that you can both enjoy your marriage in peace and harmony.

Problem shared is problem solved, invest and nature good relationships with couples whose marriages you admire and find a mentor whom you can be good role models to you.